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What is takes to be a resilient leader

Stress versus coping skills, are the two parameters you can use to measure your level of Resilience. If your stress is low and your coping skill is also low, you are likely to remain Calm. But if your stress is high and your coping skill is low, you are likely to become anxious. And that is a problem. But when your level of stress is low and you cope pretty well, then you are can remain strong during tiring circumstances. It is therefore important to develop your resilience skills when your stress and uncertainty levels are high and your coping skill is also high. In the meantime you can be in the Holding Zone where you can remain as you try to handle the situation. This is how you can cope.

  1. Practice asking for results you are not sure you will receive. For example, asking for bagging help in a grocery store.
  2. You can then progress to ask about things you are less likely to receive. For example, asking a stranger to use their mobile phone to make a call.

There are a few strategies you can use to build your resilience: 

Strategy 1: Facing rejection

When you receive a “No” as an answer, instead of thinking negatively, notice your internal language (dialogue) and hold in on your response. Never apologize for asking. You are then likely to become more tolerant to rejection. 

Next, you then become ready to make a bigger, challenging and realistic ask. For example you can ask your boss to make you shift to a better working space. Or, asking for an assistant, or a new computer. Don’t ask for outrageous things though. Making such ask’s will, in the long run, help you to raise your resilience lever.

Remember, resilience is about becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable.

Strategy 2 – Learning a new skill 

To build resilience, you need to push your comfort zone by asking for a stretch assignment, or on getting on a committee or even exploring a new field of study or expertise. 

Strategy 3 – Managing energy

Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Are you at your best, first thing in the morning, mid-day or late afternoon? 
  • Do you prepare to tackle a project after you get the chance to get into the rhythm of the day? 
  • Do you feel better and productive at a certain time? 
  • Does it take you a while to get into your grove at work? 

Being aware of your daily energy flow will help you to be better prepared for challenging situations.

If you can control the time you take a tough call, be mindful and schedule it when you have the most energy. If you can’t, then plan a strategy for dealing with the situation.  

Strategy 4 – Stay Energized

To manage high energy, you must be rested, nourished and be hydrated at all times.

Anticipate cyclical rough periods, coz every organization has a busy period of a week, month or a quarter.

If you are resilient you can anticipate such cyclical rough patches and will be more prepared and you can do any forward planning as possible.

Restore your energy. For example, if you are an extrovert, mingle and have good conversations with people around you, or if you are an introvert, have a “me alone” time with yourself.  

Strategy 5 – Keeping a positive attitude

Positive thinking and self-talk are important for overall health, as it can influence our overall outlook on life. You can also practice these following routines during challenging times.

  1. Think short team – believing that negative situations are only short term. (This too shall pass)
  2. Think local – by forcing using only on yourself, and what you can do to change the situation. 
  3. Keep the situation in perspective – asking yourself what is the worst-case outcome could be out of the situation.
  4. Talk positive – The words you use internally and externally will determine your mindset. So pay attention to it. 
  5. Replace the words – failure with obstacledownfall with setback and horrible with challenging 

Saying to yourself the following will also help

“This is tough, but I will pull through it”.

‘Let me focus on what I can control”.

“I am strong, I can overcome this”.

Remember, Positive self-talk will lead to positive emotions. 

Strategy 6 – Evaluate your actions

Next, let’s see how you can handle situations after an undesirable or stressful event has happened. How are you going to evaluate your actions? 

Even if you’re not at all responsible for the stress you experienced, it’s always a good idea to take some time and evaluate your action.

Reflect on how you handled the situation in general. Then focus on your attitude. Did you stay positive? Ask yourself what could you have done differently. How did you handle the situation, and did you remain positive. 

Look for opportunities for improvement and don’t forget to recognize what you did well. Set aside the time and be disciplined about reflection.

Your attitude should not just be positive, but constructive as well. 

Strategy 7 – Taking Feeback

You should seek out advisors/mentors/coaches who can help you de-brief and grow from the experience of adverse events. You can ask your advisors for feedback on how you handled a particular situation. They will help you increase your overall resilience and ask questions such as, “What aspects of the situation can you potentially improve on in the future?”

Or, “What can you do to be sure that this does not happen again?”. “Is there anything positive that came out of the situation? What recovery steps can you take to recover from a stressful situation?

 Finally, try to:

Strategy 8 – Take a break

This is about redirecting your energy and then reconnecting after some time. This gives to some time to assess the situation, be calm, strategize and come back strongly.

Strategy 9 – Letting Go

This is about Taking Cathartic action (emotional release)

You can take these actions when:

  • When you have no attachment
  • When it will not negatively affect your career
  • When you have communicated your need clearly, but the situation is not improving.
  • When the stress is too high for you to face and is not worth investing energy on additional coping skills

Remember, resilience, is all about perseverance in the face of adversity.

P.SVasanthan Philip is an experienced business agility coach and trainer and is now helping individuals and organisation achieve exponential growth through his unique coaching methods that he deploys when coaching his clients. He can be reached at (+91 9003075368) or visit his website http://www.vasanthanphilip.com or email at askvp@vasanthanphilip.comReport this